Called “cold”

So it takes a week for an Nt to know something is ”off”.

Its in the little things in daily life.

The social daily life.

Such as ”thank you” on a constant basis.

Or a ”good bless you” for every sneeze.

Nt like this.

When people acknowledge their feelings and confirm their state off emotions.

”Oh, Im so sorry that this happened to you, I know how you must feel….”

Instead off, ”what do you need right now? What can I for you?”

Its really hard to grasp (for a solution based mind).

That confirming what is felt is better than a solution for those bad feelings.

Its not that we don’t have empathy for others.

On the contrary, its precisely thats why a solution is the best answer.

We care.

And we are called ”cold”.

How funny is that.

2 thoughts on “Called “cold”

  1. I never know what to say when people tell me about their problems. A lady at work suffers from arthritis and seemed to be in a lot of pain. I looked up all kinds of treatments on the net and told her about it, but I never said, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry you have to go through this, blah blah blah.’ What good would that do?

    And I don’t like saying bless you when someone sneezes, so that one guy used to say ‘Thank you’ real loudly every time I didn’t say bless you when he sneezed, forcing me to say it. I find that annoying, and a bit annoying as well when i eat my sandwich at lunch at work, and every person walking by tells me to enjoy my lunch, which I will whether they tell me to or not.

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